We have all tried to find "balance" in our lives. Between work, school, friends, family and personal time, it feels impossible to fit it all in. It might work one day out the of week, but long-term, it becomes unfeasible. After a few days of life feeling unstable, that little voice inside our head makes us feel like we are doing everything wrong, we're not good enough and unworthy of an amazing life. That's why I am calling BS on "balance."
Striving for it is unrealistic and sometimes downright destructive. We use the results of the unbalanced feeling to make ourselves feel guilty, inadequate and undeserving, then we use it as a weapon to compare ourselves to other people and sometimes even harm them in the process. That's why instead of "balance," we can work on our ability to adapt and be prepared.
The fact is that each day, each week, each month is going to require something different. Whether it's school, work, family or friends, one thing is going to take more energy and love than another. It's not a bad thing, it's just reality. There are times that school or work needs the focus in order to meet deadlines, evaluations, presentations, etc. There are times that our friends and family need our attention and time, and our other commitments get put on the back-burner. It's the reality of life that we cannot ignore, and pretending that it's not true is not doing us any favors.
Putting in the effort to prepare and being flexible with our methods will help us get to a place of living a happier, healthier and more confident life. Try out these tips to get you there:
- USE YOUR CALENDAR: If you don't have a cute paper planner, you have one on our phone. Put it to work and use it your advantage. It helps with knowing what's going on and when, but it also helps with not forgot things when you are feeling overwhelmed. The luxury of an electronic calendar is you have it with you wherever you go, it will allow you to adjust meetings and appointments in our fast-paced and changing environments, and syncing up calendars with other people is incredibly convenient.
- SCHEDULE YOUR TIME: It's shocking to know what things actually consume our time during the day. Physically writing it down (or typing it out on your phone) and scheduling what you are doing and when lets you know how to effectively and efficiently use the time you have. Schedule out your days, including when you are at work, school, with friends and family, and even your self-care time. In today's world of technology and social media, it is easy to get distracted. Scheduling will help you stay on top of your goals and remain accountable. We always feel like we need more time in the day, and this will help you make the most of the time you have.
- MAKE LISTS: I call mine "Get To Do Lists" because I actively choose to seek out the positivity and blessing of having so much to accomplish. Whatever you want to call them, lists are key to productivity. During the day, I schedule out times when I can do a brain dump (writing down everything that I can possibly think of). This helps me get rid of all of the thoughts circling around in my head, which can be so overwhelming that we don't know where to start, and when I start to cross things off my lists, I feel so accomplished and proud for taking care of business.
- ASK FOR HELP: This is something that we tend to avoid sometimes, but reaching out to people for help will work wonders for you. It will bring you peace of mind, and might even show you more time to do what you love. Asking for help is stigmatized as a sign of weakness, but I believe it's a sign of self-love. It shows that you are investing in yourself to improve and to make more time available to live the happy life that we all dream of. If you find a desire to improve in the area of goal setting, scheduling, prioritizing and your overall mindset, reach out to me to schedule (see what I did there!) a consultation.